Have you ever had someone really get under your skin at work? They bug you with their actions, words, noises and more?? Yes, I’m guessing we’ve all been there. But, have you ever stopped to think that YOU might be bugging someone else with your behavior? How would you know? Here are four quick points to consider …

1) Be aware of how your behavior affects others. We all know the Golden Rule; treat others how you want to be treated. (Even though we know it, doesn’t mean we do it!) What about taking it beyond to the Platinum rule? Treat others how they would want to be treated. This can be trickier if you don’t know the person very well, but this is a great way to build relationships with your co-workers.

2) Be kinder than you need to be! Don’t let someone else’s response dictate your behavior. If Joe doesn’t say hello in the hall in the morning, instead of jumping to the conclusion that Joe is rude, consider that maybe he had a sleepless night, or he’s facing a scary health diagnosis.

3) Take note of the sounds you are projecting! Do you hum? Talk to yourself? Chew ice? Sigh? Snap your gum? If you are not aware of any annoying sounds you make on a regular basis, ask your friends and family! They’ll be sure to help shed light on anything you need to know!

4) Could you have a scent or a smell that is causing a problem in the workplace? More and more people have allergies to perfumes, colognes, plants and air fresheners, so be a bit cautious. And, what about body odor? That brings back some unpleasant memories from my HR days! Notice the effect you and your surroundings have on others and, if you need to, ask a trusted friend for honest feedback.

A little inventory of your own practices and behaviors can go a long way. Now, if only your co-workers would do the same…